Being a writer is such a scary thing. Every time I publish a piece of writing, I’m putting my thoughts on the line and opening myself up to rejection. It’s nerve-wracking, but exhilarating at the same time. However, for someone like me, who never imagined she’d become a writer, it’s all the more scary.
Growing up, I didn’t respond well to constructive criticism. I was raised in an environment where achievements had to be nothing short of perfect; mistakes weren’t allowed. Feelings and emotions weren’t part of the equation either. So I grew up always second guessing myself and struggling with any sort of criticism, whether it be constructive or not. I didn’t get much of an opportunity to express myself and discover who I really was and ultimately, what I wanted to be.
But two years ago, after I started blogging about personal development, I gained a new-found confidence. I found the courage to show the world what I really thought; how and why the world needed changing. Blogging was so rewarding for me that I wanted to go beyond this medium alone. I had a major epiphany and realised I was born to write. Now I’m working as a freelance writer and I couldn’t be happier.
Comparing myself to others
But there are days I still struggle with criticism. I still struggle with being compared to others; other parents, other mothers, other wives, other writers. I’m still human, after all.
As a writer, it’s so easy for me to compare my work against the work of others. There have been times I’ve found myself thinking along the lines of:
“Is my writing really that good or am I just fooling myself?”
“It’s great that my work is inspirational, but should I be trying to write in a similar style to other people?”
“I wish I could write like that.”
Whether you’re a writer or not, you’ve probably been faced with this comparison. You’ve probably questioned what you can bring to this world.
Focusing on my uniqueness
But I think this comparison needs to stop. There will always be attributes of people that we aspire to have, but we can’t focus so intently on these attributes that we neglect what we have to offer.
I may never be the writer who uses beautiful, flowery language and magically sets the scene for the reader. I may never be the writer who uses technical language that reflects a background in the corporate world.
However, I am unique because I am me.
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I am the sort of writer who can inspire people to take action with their lives.
I am the sort of writer who leads by example and encourages people to be kind to others.
I am the sort of writer who can move my readers to tears.
I am the sort of writer who writes from the heart and isn’t afraid to do so.
That is the sort of writer that I am. And that’s the writer that I’m proud to be.
Being unique is important
We all need to forget those comparisons that we make against each other.
Forget the reasons why someone else is ‘better’ than you. Forget the reasons why you’re not good enough.
Just focus on your uniqueness. Focus on being you.
You may not bring to the world what anyone else can, but that’s exactly the point. You’re bringing something different to what anyone else can offer.
The world needs people who can make a difference in their own way. To leave their mark.
So whether you’re a writer like me, or working an office job, or in whichever field, you can make a difference. Be you. Acknowledge your weaknesses, but don’t forget about your strengths as well.
As important as it is for us to grow, we mustn’t forget the great person that we already are at this point in time.
It’s important to remember how truly unique we really are.