Even the most positive of people can have days where they question where they are in life and why their life can’t be better. Just like anyone else, our family has experienced day-to-day struggles and wondered: “How could this happen to us?”
When you’re going through a difficult phase in your life, you struggle to see this so-called “light at the end of the tunnel”, this “silver lining” that seems to be all but existing. You don’t know if you have any energy left in you to continue fighting, to continue dreaming of a future that doesn’t appear to be so bright.
But then, what is it in people that keeps them fighting? I think the answer to this is HOPE. You always hope that things will get better, hope that things will change. Without this hope and belief that things could get better, you would not be willing to keep moving forward, to keep trying beyond all helplessness.
And I think this feeling of hope is so important, because everything in life worth fighting for never comes easy. By going through such life-changing experiences, we end up being challenged, by which we truly understand the worth of what we have.
For some, imagining what the future will be like when their life does get better keeps this hope alive. Believing that one day, things will be different, is the reason why they continue fighting. Because if you think about it, how many times have you believed a mountain was insurmountable but to your surprise, it was not? You found that not only did you climb that mountain, but you came out a stronger person than you ever were before.
And I guess that’s what I believe is “proof” that things in life, no matter how hard – will always get better. Five years ago, when I went through the lowest point in my life, I never would have guessed that I would meet someone who changed my life and that I would give birth to two beautiful children. At the time, all I saw was darkness, absolutely nothing resembling the appearance of light.
But I always hoped that my life would get better, I hoped that my life would change. And I held onto that hope, because I think you need to always believe that things will get better.
For me, it’s looking at my husband and kids and knowing that I’ve got to hold on for them, if not for myself. As a parent, it is always a struggle to keep a smile on your face even when things are tough; when everything feels like it’s going down the drain. But sometimes the positivity of one person can help the people around them to stay positive, and this in turn, could change the future of what is to come.
Because I believe that essentially, the thing that brings people out of tough situations isn’t so much circumstance; it is their ability to believe that things will get better, and that it is this belief that motivates them to initiate change.
Thuy Le (formerly known as Thuy Yau) is a freelance writer and Youth Work graduate living in Perth, Australia. She loves to share her own personal experiences about overcoming adversity, as she believes that human beings are more capable than they realise. She writes to make a positive difference in the world and to inspire others to learn from themselves and their own experiences. Her writing has been discussed on radio, won writing contests, appeared on The Huffington Post UK and major Australian sites such as news.com.au, SMH, Kidspot and Essential Kids. She is currently writing her first book.