There was always this inside joke between my friend and I. She would joke that I basically knew the answer to everything. Whenever something was troubling her and she needed advice, she would always come to me. I was not only her friend but her confidant – someone who she could depend on to provide all the right answers. But, as flattered as I was, I knew I didn’t always have the right answers. Even though I provided her with good insights, there were questions that even I couldn’t answer.
Photo Credit: anankkml / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Life isn’t always easy
Seven years have passed since I knew that friend. And in that seven years, there have been changes within the world, my life, my relationships, and most importantly, within myself. As a 24 year old now, I still don’t believe that life is easy. Far from it.
I am now a wife and a mother. I’m also a writer who works from home. I try my best to maintain a healthy marriage. I try my best to be a good mother to my kids. I try my best to be a good daughter, a good sister, a good friend. I try my best to maintain a work-life balance.
But I don’t always get it right.
As much as we plan and believe we’re doing the ‘right’ thing, sometimes life goes off course. Sometimes we lose our way. Sometimes we just don’t know what we are doing – we’re basically just ‘winging’ it.
And you know what? That’s absolutely okay.
We’ve all been there
I may write to help others lead better lives, but I’m no saint. I’ve made mistakes in my life. I’m not perfect at all. I don’t know the answers to everything.
The lessons I’ve learned about life have come from my own mistakes.
When I was at the lowest point in my life, I…
- Thought life wasn’t worth living
- Abused alcohol instead of dealing with my emotions
- Put my life and health at risk
- Failed to appreciate the people who wanted to help me
I honestly didn’t know where my life was heading, I didn’t think it would ever go anywhere. Deep down inside, I knew I wasn’t happy but I didn’t know how to ‘fix’ it.
But I did ‘fix’ it. I took control of my life and found purpose in it. I managed to get my life back on track.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual
As much as I’ve gotten it figured out, some days I’ll crack. Some days I’ll need a shoulder to cry on. Some days I’ll need someone else’s advice. I’m just like everyone else – I’m not free from emotion, from feeling, from negative thoughts.
Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. There is no ‘right’ way to live your life. What works for one person, may not work for another. What someone considers love, somebody else may not. What a person has planned for their life, may not end up the way they want.
But you need to keep your head up, give life your best shot. Let your family and friends help you figure it out. Let them be there for you when you can’t be there for yourself.
Life may not come with an instruction manual. But take comfort in knowing that you’re not alone. People, just like you, are trying to work it out too.