When a person is in need of guidance, you often hear their loved ones say: “I wish I knew how to help them”. But sometimes it’s just knowing that someone’s there for them, that can be all the help they need.
For the past month, I have been attending a group with four other mothers, to discuss our children’s behavioural issues. I have gained so much more from the group than I thought I would. Just knowing that there are other people going through the same situation, has made me feel not so alone.
Suicide is such a prevalent issue in today’s society; regardless of age, gender and culture. And I think it is incredibly sad to think that there are people out there who feel they are alone in their feelings.
That is why I created this website in the first place. I have spent a lot of my life helping people through their problems, even saving a friend from suicide. I know from my own personal experience that life can get tough, but knowing that someone is there can make all the difference.
So if you have a loved one who needs some help, just be there for them. Listen to them speak about what’s on their mind, be their shoulder to cry on. You don’t always need to know the right thing to say or the right thing to do, because the best thing you can ever give someone is your LOVE.
And to all those people who are not in a good place at the moment, please remember… you are NEVER alone. I can promise you that someone out there knows how you feel, someone out there cares about you, someone out there absolutely loves you. Just stay strong and please always remember… you are never alone.
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Thuy Wood (formerly known as Thuy Yau) is a freelance writer, resume/cover letter writer and Youth Worker living in Perth, Australia. She loves to share her own personal experiences about overcoming adversity, as she believes that human beings are more capable than they realise. She writes to make a positive difference in the world and to inspire others to learn from themselves and their own experiences. Her writing has been discussed on radio, won writing contests, appeared on The Huffington Post UK and major Australian sites such as news.com.au, SMH, Kidspot and Essential Kids. She has just completed her first book – a memoir - and is on the search for a publisher.
Its so good to read about the idea that we are not ever alone! Its important for people to know that there is someone to care, someone to look out for you.
As a Mum to five Boys I am always worried about my kids….do they know that they are loved? And needed?
We have been to parenting groups for one of our boys – and like you said..you do learn heaps!
Hi Lisa,
Yes, it’s definitely a nice feeling to know we are not alone. We are all living the same life, filled with similar ups and downs. We all need to stick together.
Aww I am sure your kids do know that they are loved and needed. Children can sense these things from the attention you give them, or even the housework you do. I bet you’re doing a great job with your five boys 🙂
I’m glad the parenting groups have helped you too. They are a great resource for parenting advice.
Thank you for reading!
This is simple and beautiful post Thuy. Our very make up is designed to be social. Dan Siegal, the amazing neuropsychologist, talks about how our brain from the moment we’re born is formed and developed through both the physicological growth (ie cells reproducing) and the interactions we have with others. When that is missing, for whatever reason, people can silently sink into very dark places, without anyone knowing. It’s sometimes really hard to reach out if you’re in that space partly because of depression or melancholy and partly because of pride … and sometimes because there is noone there that is close enough or safe enough who you may want to reveal those feelings to – shame for even feeling like that can also creep in. This is the type of post that needs to be shared around the world. Bless you x
Aww, I know exactly how that feels – to feel shameful of your own feelings. But what I’ve learnt is that a person cannot be strong all the time. We all have our low points and knowing that other people are there for us, will bring us back up.
Thank you very much for reading 🙂
xox
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