Can a Person Ever Really Change?

There's been a recurring theme in my life as of late. It's been the idea of change. Changing beliefs, attitudes, values, perspectives. In my own personal and professional life, circumstances have led to me to ask - is it worth being around people who are no longer conducive to your own happiness? … [Read more...]

What I’ve Learnt about Love

I was 16 years old the first time I ever fell in love. Or at least, what I felt was love at the time. I was emotionally fragile, vulnerable and incredibly naive. I knew hardly anything about love, just that I wanted to feel loved and appreciated. This person made me feel special for the first time … [Read more...]

When Death Puts Life into Perspective

Today, I found out that a lady at my eldest daughter's school passed away this morning. She was the co-ordinator of the out-of-school care program. I'd talked to this lady before. We shared some laughs. I'd regularly thanked her for holding the school gate open for my kids and I. Although I didn't … [Read more...]

Relationships Are a Two-Way Street

When Ben Affleck accepted his Oscar award for 'Argo' earlier this year, he likened marriage to 'work'. Standing on stage, he said to his wife who was in the audience: "I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It's good. It is work but the best kind of work and there's no … [Read more...]

Letting Others Take Responsibility

When I was about 11 years old, I found out that my emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) was 156. I fell within the range of people with incredibly high emotional intelligence. Although I hadn't even hit my teenage years, I wasn't too shocked by the result. I'd always known that I had a strong … [Read more...]

Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover

As a writer, I always have stories to tell. Some of these stories might inspire, some might lead to self-reflection, some might even change a person's life. But 'story-telling' isn't limited to only writers alone. Everyone you come across in life will have a story to tell. But it is up to each of us … [Read more...]

Life’s Too Short to Be Angry

There is a saying that I tend to live by. It goes along the lines of: "For every minute you spend angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness." Today, I didn't abide by this philosophy and lost about an hour of my life. The close call It was only 9.30am this morning and I'd already thought my day was … [Read more...]

The Value of Honesty

Movies can touch our lives and leave us with memorable quotes that we never forget. For me, there is only one. And it's found in many movies. This line always has the same underlying theme - honesty. Whenever a character misbehaves and does the wrong thing, their loved one feels understandably … [Read more...]

When Do People Deserve a Second Chance?

None of us are perfect. As human beings, we make mistakes; some of a trivial nature, some a lot more significant. But we make them. And sometimes these mistakes affect other people and we have to ask for their forgiveness. But what happens if someone else makes a mistake that affects us, and we have … [Read more...]

The Act of Forgiveness

I have recently learnt a lot about the act of forgiveness and how important it is in moving forward. As human beings, we are bound to hurt others or ourselves; and at times, do or say things that we later come to regret. But in realising that we all make mistakes, we are able to differentiate … [Read more...]