When I was 16, my friend asked me to describe someone who was important to me at the time. I remember listing characteristics such as; funny, caring and understanding. But when she answered the same question, I noticed something interesting. She gave me an extensive list of physical attributes, then said a few personality characteristics. That conversation made me realise that I saw the world differently to those around me.
I’ve never been one to care too much about the physical appearance of others. I’ve always believed that beauty comes from within; that the outward appearance of a person does not reflect who they are on the inside. To me; traits like being kind, hard-working and intelligent are truer reflections of a person’s character. That is why I’ve never felt too self-conscious about the way that I looked; it just didn’t matter to me.
But sometimes, it can be hard to keep a positive self-image about our physical appearances. The media is always filled with unrealistic portrayals of men and women who exercise hours a day, in order to maintain their figures. And because of this, we are left feeling inadequate; feeling like our bodies and faces pale in comparison.
But don’t let their physical appearances dishearten you. You may not have the body shape of a supermodel, the physique of an athlete, or the looks resembling a film actor; but you are YOU.
Beauty is subjective and everyone is attracted to different features. So you may not have the nose that you want, or have the body shape that you desire; but that doesn’t mean that someone out there will feel the same way about you.
You need to learn to love yourself for who you are. Your physical appearance is not all there is to you; you are SO MUCH more than that. It could be your willingness to help others, your determination to succeed, or your loyalty to your family and friends. It is THOSE qualities that matter.
So, next time you look in the mirror, look beyond the physical reflection. See yourself for who you truly are. Think about all the characteristics that make you YOU. By remembering that beauty comes from within, you are more likely to have a positive self-image. And also a more positive attitude towards life.
Thuy Le (formerly known as Thuy Yau) is a freelance writer and Youth Work graduate living in Perth, Australia. She loves to share her own personal experiences about overcoming adversity, as she believes that human beings are more capable than they realise. She writes to make a positive difference in the world and to inspire others to learn from themselves and their own experiences. Her writing has been discussed on radio, won writing contests, appeared on The Huffington Post UK and major Australian sites such as news.com.au, SMH, Kidspot and Essential Kids. She is currently writing her first book.
2 thoughts on “Beauty Comes From Within: Maintaining A Positive Self-Image”
Truer words have never been spoken Thuy. It’s something I’m v conscious about for my daughter. I want her to grow up loving herself for who she is, not what he looks like. She seems to be doing well so far and displays a good sense of self. Meanwhile I struggle with a bucked tooth, but after 46 years I’ve learnt to live with it. A feature of resigning myself to comfortable middle age :-)-
That is great to hear about your daughter. It’s difficult for children to go through puberty, it’s so easy to be self-conscious, especially with pressure from peers.
Aww well you’d be surprised how features like your tooth can be a trademark. Jessica Hart, an Australian supermodel, has a gap between her teeth. She’s gone on to be extremely successful, regardless.
We are who we are, we can’t change it; but we can choose to embrace it.
Thanks for reading 🙂